Atlanta Singles Dating Red Flags-What Saying I Love You Too Soon Really Means in the Dating World
Q: I've been dating this guy for two months and he is already saying I love you. This is nice, but it seems too soon. What do you think?
A: In my opinion, saying I love you too soon usually indicates one of two things:
1. The words are being used to get something, usually sex. It really stinks when such precious words are used as a tool for manipulation.
2. The words do not reflect the depth of meaning you think they do. I tend to apply the four seasons approach to saying “I love you” – you need to know someone in at least four seasons (one year) before you can genuinely know someone well enough to say I love you.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the wonderful feelings of a new relationship and mistake those feelings for love. New relationships are fun and exciting. The rush of good feelings is very very strong. It does not equal love necessarily.
While that is not the most romantic answer, but I do believe it is the most realistic answer.
Bottom line – saying I love you is a function of time, and it takes time to be able to say it and mean it.
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