How To Make The Most Of Online Dating
Still stuck in the office past 10 pm? Have a quick hamburger hurriedly picked up in the fastfood near the corner for dinner. All your officemates left at 6 pm and gosh, it's a Friday night. What are you doing in the office on a Friday night? There must be a mistake.
No, its not a mistake, you just have to admit that you are workaholic. Most of the time you spent is in the office, beside your boss, behind your table. Its as if your whole world is shut off in your life and you got to admit that your social life is totally boring. Before you know it, time has passed you by and at 35 you are still perfecting the art of being single. Unless you decided to live your life in single blessedness, you must start to perk up your social life a little bit and meet other people aside from those you interact with in the four corners of your office walls. You do not left to be alone without someone making your life a lot livelier, spicier and rosier.
Of course, you would not go downtown and pull just any other person you feel a liking to. You need to have some first impressions and first interactions with a potential partner. If your work does not allow you to take a time off that frequently, then why not try looking for that “perfect” partner online. Go ahead, there is no harm in trying. At least online you can broaden or limit your horizon. You can choose whom you want to be with by being specific with what you want. But you have to be committed on this because once you found that potential partner you have to make time for him or her and date as often as you can.
Your guide to a successful online dating will start with you. Here are some of things you have to deal with yourself before jumping into the world of online dating. It is very important that you deal with your issues and resolve them. You do not want to deal with them with that potential partner around. Again, this is a commitment to much a livelier life. Work it.
1. Admit that you are a workaholic. No matter what your reasons are: a difficult to please boss, a demanding job and clients or used to long hours of working, the answer will still be the same, you are a workaholic, admit it and see it as a problem because anything too much is not good. Work is only one aspect of your life, either you get a new job that does not take too much pressure out of you or learn to say “no” once in a while to your boss, officemates and clients.
2. Decide on your priorities. If work has been your priority since time immemorial, then maybe its time for you to switch. Remember, you should be in control of your life, not your work and definitely not your boss. If you decide to perk up your social life, put your heart to it and be committed to do it just as the time when your work was your priority. You put your time and heart to it and did everything. In the name of love, who does not want to put their all to it and make it work!
3. When you decided to go for that date, then make sure your attention is on the date and your partner. Listen and make him or her see how interested you are to what that person is talking about. Who knows, he might that partner your looking for. So make a good impression and switch off whatever it is you have to switch off – cellphone, pager or any gadgets you might have hidden under.
4. Take the word of your married friends. Seek their advice and tips. Married couples have good insight on this because they have been there and still they are because they have families to take care of. They have to prioritize their families more than their work or they are striking a balance of the two most important things in their life – earning a living and spending time with their children and partner.
5. There is more to life than your work. Try to build another life away from your work. Give yourself the much needed break and engage in some of your hobbies. Hang out with your friends from outside work and see the difference. You broaden your horizon, experience other exciting activities and create new perspective by meeting new people.
If you dealt with these issues and are successful in resolving them, then you are ready to meet some potential partners online. But keep in mind that you are just one among the swarm of people looking for that perfect match. Here are some of the few tips on how you can stand out among the rest of the people in the online dating chatroom and get the response you want from the right people.
- Create an honest and unique profile. Since online dating depends so much on the profile you put together and upload, it is always better to show the real you in your profile than pretending to be the person you are not. You can do this by being creative with your words, specific and descriptive of yourself but cautious not giving away too much personal information. Always upload the most recent photo so there will be no accusation that you are a phony. It is better to start right.
- Always be positive in your profile. Describe yourself in a positive way. Turn all your negative thoughts into something positive and make it work for you.
- If you want to get the responses you want from the right people you want then be specific with your headers. Use it as a filter for unwanteds. In that way, you only welcome the people or potential partners you want and it is easier for you to pick and choose.
- Always keep your header message fresh and unique among the rest to catch peoples' attention. You can be humorous, philosophical and clever or appear mysterious. You do not want to appear common among a swarmed of similarities, would you.
With all these tips, you are now totally spiced up. Make online dating work you and see the difference it does to your life. You do not have to worry about kissing the wrong frogs anymore.
Lee Dobbins writes for onlinedating.unique-articles.com where you can read more articles on online dating.
